Have you ever compared your life to someone else’s only to feel discouraged, disappointed and insecure? We’ve all had moments when we question our self-worth. Believe me, I’ve been there many times.
No matter who you are or your walk-in life, it’s easy to get lost in the social-media-obsessed world we live in and find ourselves feeling we aren’t enough.
The biggest epidemic is the disease of comparison. With the rise of social media more and more people are finding themselves comparing their lives to the highlights they see from other people. Trust me on this, no one’s life is as perfect as their Instagram feed. You’re comparing your behind-the-scenes life with someone else’s controlled reality.
Look at it in this perspective, people often portray what they want people to believe about them. Very rarely do they show a real glimpse into their true personal life or who they truly are. You don’t see what is going on in people’s lives behind the scenes nor do they show the unlovely and imperfect parts of their life. On social media most people tend to only share the best and good parts of their life and most of it is produced. No one posts their struggles, failures, and problems. Very few are real and authentic.
You see: A fashion blogger posting expensive wardrobe, lifestyle and luxurious car.
You don’t see: The over-the-top credit card bills and endless creditor calls for unpaid bills and massive debt.
You see: Perfect romantic and very in love couples #PerfectRelationship #CoupleGoals
You don’t see: The physical and emotional abuse. Constant arguing, disagreements, cheating and disrespect of a toxic relationship.
You see: United family enjoying vacations and memorable holidays.
You don’t see: Dysfunctional imperfect family with generations of trauma.
You see: An empowering boss achieving his/her goals.
You don’t see: The struggles, the sacrifices, those who underestimated and criticized them, the sleepless nights full of work, the tears of frustration, the self-doubt and self-sabotaging mindset.
You see: Fitness and health influencers posting perfect bikini bods and six packs.
You don’t see: Their insecurities, lack of confidence, the eating disorders they struggle with or the steroids they consume.
So, as you see…. Instagram isn’t a full reality. You are making a comparison on a small fraction of the story. Comparing is unfair and unjust to yourself.
We have different stories and timelines. Know that no one’s life is perfect. Till this day I still haven’t met anyone who has it all together. We all struggle and carry some kind of burden.
The truth is, although we compare, we don’t want other people’s lives we just want ours to be better so focus on your life. Inspire and motivate yourself to work harder for your goals and what you want. Be better than you were yesterday and focus on the good things in your life to develop yourself. People always tend to believe the grass is greener on the other side which has always been a negative comparison. Believe me, the grass is NEVER greener on the other side. Instead of focusing on others green grass focus on ours.
Though from the outside many people look like they have it all; the money, the perfect family or relationship, fame and success the truth is that’s a small percentage of their story. They have the same emotions, struggles and battles with insecurities and life.
Start thinking differently and develop your mindset to achieve the life that you want. Stop comparing yourself to others and realize YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Be Lovely, Be You
Charlene Gonzalez
