One of the most important relationships you’ll ever have in life is the relationship with yourself. Unfortunately, as human beings, we tend to worry about our relationships with other people and not about the one we have with ourselves.
In my life getting to know myself and spending time with myself have become a top priority. Doing this has helped me embrace my imperfections and strengths, empowering my self-love, independence and decision making.
Getting to know myself and even understand my personality has helped me be a better person every day. That should be everyone’s goal; be a better person than they were the day before. I’m a very genuine person due to the fact that I use to know what it was to hide who I truly was because of religion, my family and culture (That’s a long story for another day). Taking off the mask, facing and being yourself is liberating.
Within that journey into understanding myself I’ve taken a few personality tests. Doing this helped me understand so much about myself. I’ve always known I’m an introvert but though I’m shy and may keep to myself I’ve always had big goals, been a risk taker and love adventure. According to the Myer-Briggs personality tests I am an “Adventurous Introvert”. If you haven’t taken this personality test, I highly recommend it. I discovered that many of the biggest celebreties are also ”Adventurous Introverts”.
I have always been my own individual, I’m very confident and happy with my own company. I’m not scared to do things on my own though it takes me I while to make decisions because I analyze every detail. Even the decision of leaving everything behind and starting over in NY was something that I highly analyzed. Not to mention the decision to get my tattoos…wow I really over analyzed that.
I’m very observant, love to have fun and need passion because I get bored easily. I am very creative; I can do it all from writing, creating content, designing to DIY and home décor. I love anything that involves creativity. There’s also nothing I enjoy more than new experiences. Discovering new hobbies, activities, cultures, foods…..I want to try it all. Well as long as it doesn’t involve anything scary and dangerous.
I’m not a party girl, never have been and never ever will be and I’m ok with that. I’m more of a homebody…well I like day activities. Just don’t expect me to be out all night till the next day. Yes, I love trying new things and going on fun adventures. One, thing I pride myself in is being self-taught. My expertise of being a blogger and content creator I learned by myself. Though it took me 2 years to make the decision of being a blogger I was learning and teaching myself during the process. I literally can teach myself to do anything.
Comfort zones and routines are my worst nightmares; I don’t like them or believe in them. I hate conflict and confrontations and try to avoid them.
The simple things bring me joy. My spirit is young, though I’m in my 30’s I feel like 25. There’s still so much I want to do and accomplish in life.
Within getting to know myself and my personality I’ve learned to have a positive mentality through everything. Before the old Charlene would break down to difficult situations and heartbreaks, not anymore. Though I do take my time to process my emotions because mental health and peace are my priorities. Bad experiences in life are just life lessons. When you learn to love everything about yourself, you have high values and standards not even a simple heartbreak will get you down because you understand your amazing worth. You simply move on and live your best life.
Through this journey I’ve grown in self-love, acceptance and I’ve become my own best friend. Knowing and accepting yourself is a lifelong journey that will never be over, but it’s worth the effort. If you haven’t done it, make the relationship with yourself your main priority.
Be Lovely, Be You
Charlene Gonzalez
