Sharing personal stories and opening up isn’t easy. I know I haven’t posted in a while after I promised to be consistent, but I’ve been dealing with a serious personal family matter which has greatly affected me, mentally and emotionally. Not only have I been very affected but also drained. Taking care of my mental health has always been a priority even if that means taking breaks and disconnecting to process my emotions, I’m going to do it. Though I haven’t been consistent on the blog I have been a bit more on Instagram. I’ve been mentally blocked, so I didn’t feel inspired to write a blog post nor did I want to write about anything pointless. In my life I’ve been through a lot, and I must honestly say this situation has hit me the hardest. I have always been open about my life and experiences but this time I’ve decided to keep it to myself especially because there are other individuals involved. One day I will open up and share my story because I know many have been or are going through a similar situation. Even though I’ve been told that since I have a big platform and am a influencer, I should share this situation which will inspire many but I’m still in the process of accepting and healing. When I’m ready I promise I will share details because I am embracing my story.
I’ve got to say that having a career on the internet-social media isn’t easy when you go through difficult circumstances because being happy or being yourself is hard. If there’s one thing about me is that I can’t be fake or pretend. I’m 100% authentic. I also don’t like to share anything dark and depressing. There’s so much going on in everyone’s lives and in the world that sharing positive content is very important to me. One thing about me and which has brought me a lot of success is that I’m very responsible and a big perfectionist. Since I haven’t been at my best, I even put brand sponsorships on hold. I had been focusing on other projects where I didn’t have to show much of myself. Everyone goes through different processes, and some aren’t ready to speak about it. That’s something that should be understood and respected. I don’t want to be forced into talking about anything. In my journey through life I’ve learned that no matter what you share even if you have the real facts people will believe what they want to believe. And they will always have their own opinions and conclusions. So, I’ve learned to be careful of what I share. AND when I share my story it’s not for pity or attention, it’s to inspire.
I will never forget an experience I had many years ago. If you follow me for a while, you know that I love to help others and be involved in social initiatives that will have a positive impact. So, I created a special project to visit children and teen shelters to bring them gifts, love and give them a fun time. During that period someone in the industry started spreading comments saying I had only created that project because I wanted attention and fame. That was so far from the reality because projects like that have been my mission and goal even in my childhood. Honestly, even though I share a lot about fashion and beauty I can truly care less about it because there are more important things in life and there’s a lot of need in our world. That day I learned that whether you do good or bad people will ALWAYS criticize. That’s why I’m super careful about what I share and I’m careful about the energy I surround myself in.
We all face different circumstances and have our own journey in life. The way everyone faces those circumstances should be respected. One thing is for sure, there’s never anything we can’t handle. My goal through everything I face is to be a better person each day, do good and live as peacefully as I can.
On another note, soon we celebrate Lovely Chicas 10th anniversary. Wow, I can’t believe its going to be 10 years. Lovely Chicas has been my biggest life project. During this time, I’ve been reflecting on which direction I want to continue in, even though my mission will always be to inspire, empower and continue being an advocate and very outspoken on social issues, women’s rights, mental health issues, bullying-cyberbullying and more. I’m very thankful for this platform and will always use it for good. Though I’ve taken a break and may not be the same Charlene as before I promise the best is yet to come.
With all that being said… remember to be good, kind, tolerant; BE LOVELY, BE YOU!
Charlene Gonzalez
